Deze plussize blogger 'verdient haar vriend niet' vanwege maatje meer
Toen de Amerikaanse plussize blogger Melissa Gibson op oudjaarsavond een foto van haar en haar vriend deelde kreeg ze de volle lading. Ze zou haar vriend niet ‘verdienen’, omdat ze dik is.
Maar Melissa laat niet over zich heen lopen en reageert.
De reacties op de foto van Melissa en haar vriend zijn beslist niet mals. ‘Ga naar de sportschool en eet gezond, dik mens’, schreef een jongen. Anderen vonden dat zij haar vriend niet ‘verdient’, omdat hij wel slank is.
‘We zijn precies wie we willen zijn’
Maar Melissa reageert via Instagram: ‘Alsof ik het niet verdien of alsof onze liefde niet echt is. We zijn juist precies wie we willen zijn en onze lichamen maken daar deel van uit’. Melissa vraagt mensen te stoppen met de negatieve reacties.
De foto van Melissa en haar vriend waar ze veel nare reacties op kreeg.
Only we can fuck it up. Only we can make it amazing. Ours is the kind of love that feels right because we are both present, honest, and excited. The kind of love that flows from two people in love with life. Two people who appreciate the moment and the journey. 2017 brought you into my life, and we face 2018 together. Wouldn’t want to do it with anyone else. Love you Johnathan ❤️. #2018 #nye #louisville #love #bf #ootdeb #debshops
De reactie van Melissa.
When taking a picture in a sparkly dress next to the man you love makes people comment about your body, question your relationship, make judgements about him for loving you. Our relationship is political. Even though we both know how natural and right it feels. And if the world won’t just let us be, we will keep fighting for our love, for our space, for our right to be seen, accepted without question, and celebrated. In all honesty it’s silly to think it bothers people so much, but when privileged people base their value on attraction and relationships, it results in the plethora of relationships that look like mine being erased and delegitimized. Like somehow I don’t deserve him or our love isn’t real. We are exactly what each other wants, and guess what, our bodies are a part of that. It’s not a abnormal or a fetish. It’s simply natural. So while you insist on yelling your insecurities and bigotry at me, realize I’m not playing the game you play any longer. I’m not playing by your rules. And it’s honestly sad you still are. 2018 is the year for Love that is not defined by weight, age, ability, genitals, gender, sexuality. Not defined by race or ethnicity or religion. We’re having more fun this way anyway ;). #love #bf #relationshipgoals #fatbabe #visiblewomen #louisville #newyearseve #2018 #nye #debshops .......... ALSO THIS DRESS IS FROM @debshops FOR ALL THOSE THAT ASKED. Remember I always tag where I got my clothing in the picture.
Melissa deelt op haar Instagram nog meer foto’s om vrouwen te laten zien dat ze trots moeten zijn op hun lichaam.
The kind of sexy that comes when beauty standards, diet culture, and comparison stop ruling your life. You know, the kind that just always existed. Oh and the dash of passionate anger at anyone and anything that holds up those silly systems doesn’t hurt either. Lingerie is from @therealadamandeve. Use code “MELLY” for 50% off an item and free shipping to the US/Canada. #plussize #sexyatanysize #visiblewomen #takingupspace #fatbabe #bopo #bodyjustice
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(Reposting this caption because I’m feeling it so much) ❤️❤️❤️ I believe in the power of marginalized people simply existing. I believe in the power of their love. Of their joy. Of their work. I believe in the power of every moment of their day. While they are burdened with constant judgment, constant surveillance, constant stigma, these are also the same things that make their every choice, every breath, every act powerful. An act of resistance, an act of hope, an act of change. As a fat woman, my visibility, the way my clothes cling to my body, my movement, my happiness, how I take up space, my standards, the way I value myself, my education, my work, the way I dance, the way I look you in the eye, the way I make love, the way I smile, the way I refuse to cover up, the way I refuse to stay silent, my refusal to hide, my refusal to believe I am unworthy, all of these things give me power. In every moment I am brave, I have to be, in order to live I have to rise, I cannot hide. I will not hide. I shouldn't have to be brave to dance, to wear what I want, to see a doctor, but it takes bravery. My fat body makes me stronger. I'm not sure that's something to celebrate, because it shouldn't have to be that way, but I look out at the other fat people around me, the black people, the disabled and aging and trans people, I look at them and see how their stories have shaped them to be glorious. I also see how they are changing the world. If you aren't marginalized, recognize this. Of course they are inspiring but they aren't inspiring for you, they are inspiring for themselves. They are inspiring because they know they have to make the world a better place, because currently their simple existence means they have to live better, they have to fight harder, they have to prove themselves, and their exhaustion is never tolerated in fact it is used against them. And their lives are then tokenized to be something about the story of those who are complicit in the systems that marginalized them. Yet they still go on, they still exist, they still thrive. #bodyjustice #power #louisville #old502af